Look at all the people who get divorced every year – these are all available people to date. In fact, in the United States alone, there are more than 104 million single people over the age of 18.  That line bears repeating, doesn’t it?  If you can’t find ONE person out of 104 million, perhaps you’re doing something wrong.

You need to ask yourself if you really do want to meet someone new or are you saying that because your family or friends or society in general expect you to be paired off.  People who aren’t emotionally ready to date — won’t.  It’s okay if you’re not ready because that’s how life works.  When you’re ready, you’ll find someone.

Now, if you ARE serious about looking for someone new to date, how are you going about it?  Sitting alone on your sofa isn’t going to make prince or princess charming enter your life.  You must enter theirs.  Start with online dating.  If you’re serious and want to join SexyAds.com, write to me and I’ll organize a free month of VIP membership.  They owe me a favor or two.

Got hobbies?  Join a club and find others who share your passion.  Like to cook?  Take a cooking class.  Enjoy gardening?  Join the local garden club.  Every community has one.

The point I’m trying to make is that you need to put yourself in front of prospective dates or they’ll never find you.  When you’re in their face, let the flirting begin.

In colors of purple, teal and red, the We-Vibe has dual vibrating heads.  The top is the external clitoral stimulator that really gets a woman going.  It sits on top while you insert the smaller, bottom head into the vagina to stimulate your g-spot.  This is where it gets good for both of you.  He gets that buzz with every thrust.

The We-Vibe is shower and bath safe, too.  If you’re worried that the batteries will die out before the fun – it’s okay.  The We-Vibe can run for about an hour on high speed and much longer on the lower setting.  Don’t worry about the in-laws visits stopping the fun because it’s really quiet too.

It’s a powerful vibe that needs to be in the drawer of everyone’s bedside table.

Lots of women need a bit of a push to catch up to their man and this toy certainly does the trick.  The We-Vibe doesn’t require any fancy batteries either – just plug the mouth of the stapler into the wall charger and it’s ready for your next playtime.

If you’ve ever tried to use a normal vibrator during sex (I’m sure we all have at one time or another) this is stacks better!  No hard vibe buzzing on a bone or moving at just that critical moment.  Seriously, try this one out and I think you’ll agree that it’s a real winner for women AND for the men who love them.

This is the sort of question that men all over the world have been asking themselves over and over again! They’re still to come up with the answer…in fact, so are we!

Women from all over the world want different things at different times of their lives, but this shouldn’t be too hard for men to figure out! We want them to know what we want! Does this make sense? To us, it’s perfectly clear. I want my husband to come up with the perfect gift for my birthday, without him asking over and over again what I want. I want to be surprised with a gift that he thought of all by himself!

We don’t ask for much, just for men to be considerate, and to pick up their dirty laundry, to do those little things that make a big difference. We want to be heard when we talk, and we want communication, conversation!

Most men don’t communicate very well, and most if not all women find this extremely frustrating. We know it’s a male thing not to open up and express your deepest emotions, but a little conversation wouldn’t  hurt. We like to know what you’re thinking, we want to know how we can help, but most of all, we just want to be able to communicate, so we both know what the other is feeling, even on the good days and bad.

What do women want? Well, there is no definitive answer, because we want many things, at different times. Most of all, we just want our lover to communicate with us, and to bring the chocolate!

While being spanked or corrected isn’t really for me, domestic discipline is something that may works for many people. I was shocked to find out that a very close friend lives this sort of relationship 24/7.  She doesn’t tell many people because most react with disgust.  I say if the lifestyle suits her, it’s no skin off my nose!

A majority of DD relationships have the man in charge of administering discipline towards the woman however there is a growing trend seeing more women as the individual administering displicine. The person in charge is frequently referred to as HOH or “Head of Household”. I’m certain you will find relationships of domestic discipline in same sex relationships but I haven’t discovered much about the net about this.

If each partner involved communicates their feelings clearly, and rules and guidelines are set up ahead of time and common sense is utilized, then domestic discipline can be a great addition to a relationship. Although every adult domestic discipline relationship is going to be unique, many couples have used the Spencer Spanking Plan to shape their relationships.

A visit to the Spencer Spanking Strategy website was truly interesting. One of the origins circa 1690 (although unproven) of the phrase “Rule of Thumb” is that a man could not beat his wife with a plank wider than the width of his thumb. Domestic discipline is far from the rule of thumb. The Spencer Strategy is a contract between a couple wherever each partner bears a responsibility to the other and a craft a technique to regain balance, find harmony and strengthen the bond in between them.

Many couples feel that domestic self-control or spanking is far preferable than what happens in numerous homes – the silent treatment or withholding of affection or sex. Angry partners show moments of rudeness, talk about their partner’s shortcomings to others and sometimes forget essential events like birthdays or anniversaries. Spanking addresses the wrong and puts it away resulting in the hurt not festering for days, weeks or months.

So what sorts of things are in the guidelines?

1. Whenever possible the partner is to be hand spanked; not strapped or paddled. This encourages a the highest level of intimacy in the discipline. However under the Modified Spencer Plan a partner may be disciplined with an implement (see Rule #7).

2. Care should be taken not to bruise, raise welts or injure your partner in any way. The punishment should continue long enough however, to be truly effective and to impart a beneficial lesson for your partner. Your aim is to deliver responsible discipline, not mindless abuse.

3. A spanking must never be administered in anger. Wait until both parties are calm and it can be carried out properly and safely.

4. The spanking over, the incident must close. To hold anything against a punished partner, after a spanking or whipping has been given, is in direct violation of this whole method of correction.

5. A spanking must never be given before a third party without the FREE CONSENT and WILLING Permission of both parties PRIOR to the event. Nor is any one to be informed that such discipline is employed without the FREE CONSENT and WILLING Permission of both parties. The Modified Spencer Plan is meant to be a private, intimate agreement base in love and compassion for your partner. It does not however exclude the potential necessity for special circumstances.

6. Requested punishment MUST be given. Here we have a most important and valuable feature of the Original Spencer Plan. It is not enough to take the discipline without fuss or argument when our punishing partner feels we should have it — we must also ASK FOR IT, when we know or feel that we deserve it! A compassionate partner should never dispute or challenge a requested spanking, and should deliver punishment at the first available opportunity.

7. Only implements previously agreed to by both parties may be used on a partner. A light leather strap or belt, a wooden paddle, or ruler would be preferred to administer the punishment with. Partners must use extreme care, however, not to cut the flesh, raise welts or injure their partner in any way. The only implement which is permitted at all times is the hand; all other times the implement should be decided upon by both partners, or selected by the recipient before discipline is administered.

8. Not more than two punishments can be administered in any one day. It is seldom necessary to observe this precaution — but it is here to cover very unusual and unexpected circumstances. In the extremely rare instances where a partner really merits more than two spankings in any one day, the punishment must be postponed to the next day or to whatever following day they decide is best. An agreed upon punishment can NOT be forgotten or forgiven, only delayed.

9. The punishment should be inflicted upon the bare skin. In no other way can a careful check be kept on the progress of the spanking or whipping. Remember, the idea of corporal punishment is to sting the flesh effectively without truly harming the partner in any way. To do the job intelligently a constant scrutiny of the skin must be maintained. Discipline administered over clothing — even a thin, single garment is “blind punishment.” It may be altogether too severe, or not severe enough. At minimum the partner is to be disciplined on a bare, naked bottom.

10. There must be PROMPT ACCEPTANCE of discipline. There must be no argument — no protest — no pleading to be let off — and NEVER any hard feelings about it! Your partner puts a high level of trust in you to bear out your responsibility in the agreement. In a healthy and open relationship it is rarely a matter of concern because it is a cooperative decision, not a contested one.

What does a spanking agreement consist of?

Date: _______________________, 2_____

I _______________________, partner of ___________________ do hereby acknowledge that I have read this “Modified Spencer Spanking Plan” and the related “Modified Spencer Spanking Plan Rules”. I attest that I fully agree with and voluntarily approve of the doctrines it advocates. From this date on it is my wish to have my conduct regulated by the enforcement of these doctrines. I grant to my lover, therefore, the full right and permission to discipline me whenever they feel such discipline would prove helpful and be in accordance with the spirit of this Modified Spencer Spanking Plan. This Agreement has been entered into willingly — and for no other purpose than to improve my disposition and secure the general benefit that always comes from the enforcement of intimate discipline. I understand that I will be spanked without fail if I break my promise to refrain from:

• Making any lie or falsehood to my lover
• Not completing an agreed upon chore or assignment
• Any sexual contact with any other person without permission
• Being excessively rude or intentionally offensive to my partner
• Failing to show proper attention and deference to my partner in public

I promise to cooperate with my lover faithfully. I will get ready for the punishment promptly when asked to do so and I will bear them absolutely no ill-will for so disciplining me. I promise further to ASK for discipline when I feel it is needed. I realize that requested punishment plays a highly important role in the Spencer Plan, and I will report and ask for the discipline when I feel need or deserve it.

By entering “YES” or “NO” in the appropriate blanks below I further condone the use of the below listed implements only, and only when mutually agreed upon or requested by me.

____ Hand _____ Strap _____ Paddle

____________________________ Other

Signed:

I COMMIT THIS TO MY PARTNER:

Printed: ________________________ Signature: ______________________

 

I ACCEPT THIS FROM MY PARTNER:

Printed: ________________________ Signature: ______________________

If you’d like more information about domestic discipline or spanking you can get the full story at the SpencerPlanSpanking.com

You inflate the cushion so you can customize it for your comfort and activity, which is a big point over the pre-sized cushions. The Liberator Shapes are one size fits all.  They’re comfy but not adjustable to the activity on the dat.  Regardless of the amount of air I put in it, it gives me support and makes things comfy.
Keeping you in position.  It’s also got handles and that helps a bit with stability.

If you run out of sexy ideas, keep the box!  Lots of photos to copy positions from just like the Kama Sutra.

According to the box it’s washable but I wouldn’t toss it in the machine and hope it would come out in one piece.  I just put it in a sink of suds and run my fingers over it and rinse and let it air dry.  It still looks new.  It’s fuzzy so if the cat walks by you’re gonna get fuzz all over it.  A lint brush works its magic in just a jiffy.

All in all, not a bad cushion for less than $50.

I had a quick look on Amazon’s review pages and I’m still chuckling.  This one is my favorite:

Simply put I’m not a screamer but after using this one time I can sing soprano. Small, easy to carry, and I love the little attachment that it comes with. What takes me a few minutes now only takes me a few seconds. Two thumbs and toes up for this one.

Then there’s this one, as if you’d need more encouragement to try a pocket rocket after the last testimonial?

My Wife loves this little thing. It gets her off within 5 minutes usually sooner.Its very easy to hold and lightweight so your hands wont get tired holding it. Its very quiet I think. If you want to have alot of hard easy orgasms 1 after the other GET THIS!!!

And finally…

The best way to celebrate anything good that has happened to you today is to whip out one of these little things. Compact, as advertised — easily the size of my concealer/foundation stick and smaller than my powder brush — this vibe could be carried anywhere. Stick it in your suitcase, backpack, purse, makeup kit… pocket of loose clothing? It sure beats many other toys that are, like, the length of your foot. Size is definitely on your side with this one.

The power is great, too. They weren’t lying when they said “intense orgasms.” I really hate putting it away, as I could stay in bed with it all day long. There is wet and there is dripping wet, and this toy will do its trick. You can be sure that if I ever burn my vibe out of use, I will be back for another. This product is one of my favorites, and I do recommend it. Highly.

Actually, I think you would be slightly crazy to pass it up. Two thumbs up.

He validates me as a human being.  When he’s with me I’m the most important person in his world and I love that about him.  I suppose the confidence that I feel when I’m with him just sets my passion on fire.

So where was I?  Oh yes, I was fantasizing for just a moment.  Frank is coming over in 45 minutes.  45 minutes?  What was I thinking?  I’ll never get ready in that amount of time – certainly not for Frank.   I always want to look and smell my best because I know that’s how he’ll be.  Nothing 2nd rate about Frank.  Maybe one thing.  He’s really afraid of commitment.

There’s never any talk about when we’ll see each other again nor do we ever make plans for a future meeting.  It’s just understood that he’s got a very demanding job and he travels a lot and a permanent relationship isn’t on his list of must-do things.  I accept that but I can tell you that I wish we had a more substantial relationship.

When we first started seeing each other I was convinced that he was married.  His schedule screams married to me.  I have a friend who knows a friend — you know those kind of people  who know people who can do things.  This friend confirmed that Frank is definitely single.  So maybe he’s got a full-time girlfriend?  Sometimes not seeing him often bothers me, like right now.  Other times I have a busy life with a lot of friends and I don’t give him much of a 1st thought.  He’s definitely in my 2nd and 3rd thoughts.

Here I sit wondering about all of this and my hair isn’t shampooed and my legs aren’t shaved and I’m a week away from my next Brazillian.  I do have the wine chilled and I’ve put out a plate of cheese, dried fruit and nuts so we’ll have a little snack later.

What sort of sex shall we have today?  My mind is racing.  I’m thinking maybe we’ll try it standing up.  I haven’t ever done that with Frank.  Maybe we’ll do the “bend me over the back of the sofa” thing.  If I’m in that sort of mood, the idea of being taken like the slut I’m not but wish I was really turns me on.

I’m off to shower, dress in something sexy and try not to forget to lay out the condoms, lube, toys and towel.

Do you have a routine before sex?  I never thought I did but it’s pretty apparent today that I do.

Here at Hen’s, we’re never afraid to ask! I tracked down a fully fledged Lesbian female, who has been gay since she can’t remember when. Here is her story.

People want to know when I realised I was a lesbian, and there’s always one or two definitive moments that stand out. Once, was when I was at a party, and after too many drinks, I found myself making a move on a girl at this party, rather than a guy. We kissed that night, and I found that I had more feelings for women than I did for any guy I had ever dated.

Often, I’m asked what the difference is in being a lesbian.  I wouldn’t say that there is a difference between a hetero and a lesbian relationship. It’s just simply that I feel more for girls, there is more intimacy, there’s more compassion, and my past experiences have taught me that I couldn’t feel that for a guy. When it comes down to it, I gather most lesbians think they are heterosexual first, before they realise that they’re a lesbian. Because really, who wants to be gay and be different and come out in this world? So you try the hetero thing, then because that doesn’t work and you’re not happy and don’t feel anything, you experiment with the same sex. And for me, that worked!! I’ve been in several hetero relationships. A couple of serious ones, but there was no chemistry. My heart never skipped a beat the whole time I was with a guy, but it did when I just kissed a girl.

Once I had actually realised that I was more attracted to women, it took me 3 years to tell my family. My sister found out that I had kissed a girl, and I made out that I was drunk and being silly. This was really only because I was too scared of the consequences at the time. Then you hate yourself afterwards, for not having the courage to actually admit it! I finally did confess to my sister, and she totally accepted it!

Telling my parents was hard, but I did come out to my mother, who was in denial for a while, then she openly accepted it, and now it’s just so much more relaxing to be open about it. I think there is a process your parents have to go through once they realise you’re gay, because they don’t expect it from their own kids.

Being openly gay has made me more aware of my feelings, and I am comfortable with my sexuality, but no matter where you go, you still get the glares, or some comments. I do ignore them though, because I’m not out to flaunt it, I’m just being myself. There’s still a stigma attached to gay or lesbian couples, people think of the word lesbian or hear it and straight away picture two girls having sex. That’s where being gay disgraces them and grosses them out. Don’t picture two girls having sex if you aren’t comfortable with it, and you won’t be so negative. There’s more to a relationship than sex, just like there is more to a hetero relationship.

Some believe we don’t exist and that we are all going through a phase. Believe me, we’re not. You see someone, fall in love, so why not allow yourself to share your life with someone, even if it is that same sex. You just have to put yourselves in our shoes.